Reducing conflict in your New Jersey divorce

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Ending a marriage, no matter if it has been six months, six years, or 60 years, carries with it hurt feelings, big emotions, and the potential for conflict. Even if a couple agrees to be amicable during the proceedings, this doesn’t always happen. 

Not only does conflict during a divorce causes more stress, but it may also extend the process, result in “he said, she said arguments,” and even impact the outcome case in some situations. While eliminating conflict completely during your divorce may not be possible, there are steps you can take to reduce it, keep your cool, and get through the process. 

Put in the effort to listen more

Conflict during a divorce often occurs because one or both parties don’t feel heard. You can significantly reduce instances of conflict by listening to what the other person has to say. In many cases, once you start listening, they will too. If you can’t seem to get past this issue, then using the services of a counselor or mediator may be beneficial. 

Be willing to compromise

In a divorce, there are few situations where you will get everything you want. Because of this, you must be willing to compromise. If you and your ex both want something — such as the house — a viable solution may be to sell it and split the proceeds so you can both purchase something on your own. It’s important to work to find a way to ensure both parties’ interests are accounted for in a divorce. This is another situation where professional guidance may help.

Ensuring an amicable New Jersey divorce

While not every divorce can be amicable, you can take steps to reduce the conflict in the situation. Doing so may even help you achieve better terms to your divorce that go along with what you want. 

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