Could divorce make you a better parent?

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Parenting after divorce can be very complicated. You have to share time with your co-parent. You have to set up a parenting agreement and decide on things like what rules you’re going to use or how to set up custody schedules where children will live in both homes.

But it doesn’t all have to be negative. There are some significant ways in which parenting can actually make you a better parent.

You may have less stress

First and foremost, if you were in a stressful marriage, that stress is going to bleed over into your parenting style. By eliminating the stress and getting divorced, you may have more time and emotional energy to focus on your children.

You learn about self-sufficiency

Additionally, divorce is going to force you to be self-sufficient. You’re not relying on anyone else to help or to make decisions for you. Instead, you get to make all of these decisions and set your life up in the way that you want. That can help to make things go smoothly, especially if you had a lot of daily conflicts with your spouse before.

You make a parenting plan

Additionally, as noted above, creating a parenting plan is a big part of getting divorced. You need to think about things that are related to legal custody, for instance, such as discipline, healthcare, education or religion. Many parents have never actually sat down and given these things comprehensive thought. Divorce forces you to do so, and your parenting plan can actually help you address the parenting process in the way you would have liked to all along.

At the end of the day, you want to put your children first when it comes to a divorce. Take the time to look at all of the options that you have and the legal steps you can take to do so.

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