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Demystifying Mediation: A Clear Path Forward

Facing divorce can be overwhelming. With so much uncertainty, choosing the right path is critical. As a Certified Matrimonial Attorney with over three decades of experience supporting clients throughout Bergen County, I believe in empowering individuals with knowledge and options. Today, I’ll shed light on mediation, a powerful tool for navigating divorce with clarity and control.

Untangling The Myths

Mediation is often shrouded in misinformation. It isn’t a magic bullet or a substitute for legal counsel. Instead, it’s a structured process where a neutral third party, like myself, facilitates communication and helps you reach mutually agreeable solutions. As a certified mediator and domestic violence mediator, I understand the delicate nuances of this process and prioritize your well-being throughout.  However, if you want me to mediate your case, I cannot also represent you in the matrimonial process. However, if you want me to mediate your case, I cannot also represent you in the matrimonial process.

What Mediation Is And What It Isn’t

Mediation is not a court proceeding. It’s a confidential and collaborative space where you and your spouse can discuss and negotiate various aspects of your divorce, including:

  • Property division: Sharing assets and liabilities fairly
  • Child custody and parenting time: Creating a schedule that focuses on the best interests of your children
  • Spousal support: Determining appropriate financial arrangements, if necessary

It’s important to note that the mediator doesn’t make decisions for you. They act as a guide and facilitator, ensuring productive communication and helping you arrive at solutions you both can embrace.

Empowering Your Decisions

Mediation offers numerous benefits, including:

  • Reduced conflict and stress: It fosters an environment of problem solving. The process attempts to hone in on the source of anger and emotional strain.
  • Cost-effective: Compared to litigation, it may significantly reduce legal fees and save time.
  • Multiple mediation sessions: Often, the parties will need more than one mediation session to explore the differences in how each party envisions a settlement between them. Both parties may begin mediation not knowing how to resolve their different goals. The mediation process can help to articulate each party’s position to the other. The mediator can also offer solutions not previously contemplated. The most important aspect of mediation is for the parties to agree that they want to ultimately resolve their issues and word towards that resolution.

Mediation may be a viable pathway for resolving your differences amicably if you’re considering divorce. I can guide you through the process, answer your questions and ensure you have the information and support you need to make informed decisions about your future.

Schedule Your Consultation

Contact the attorney at Melinda L. Singer, Esquire, in Hackensack today at 201-870-0826 or visit my online contact page to schedule a consultation. Let’s discuss your unique situation and explore how mediation can help you navigate divorce with clarity and confidence.