Encouraging your child’s relationship with their other parent

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Parents who go through a divorce have to think about how this significant life change will affect their children. One thing that can suffer greatly is the child’s relationship with each parent. Thankfully, if you are getting divorced, both you and your ex can take steps to encourage the kids to have a meaningful relationship with both parents.

Several things should be considered when you’re trying to encourage your children to build a relationship with your ex. Each of these considerations can build upon the others to help your children understand that you won’t be upset if they have a meaningful relationship with their other parent.

Open communication is key

It’s important to avoid negative comments or criticisms about your ex, as these can impact the children’s perception and potentially harm their relationship with the other parent. Encourage your children to share their feelings and reassure them that it’s okay to love and want to spend time with both parents.

Parents should also encourage regular communication between the children and the other parent, such as phone calls, video chats or texts. This shows the children that both parents support their relationship with each other, regardless of the changes in the family structure.

Joint parenting decisions are beneficial

Collaborating with the other parent on decisions related to the children can further reinforce a positive relationship. This collaboration might involve coordinating schedules, discussing educational needs or planning special occasions together. By working as a team, parents can provide a united front that helps children feel supported and loved by both parents despite the divorce.

Create a supportive environment

Creating a supportive environment that encourages children to spend quality time with the other parent can make a significant difference. This might involve being flexible with visitation schedules, supporting the children’s participation in activities involving the other parent or simply speaking positively about their time together.

Encouraging children to have a healthy relationship with their other parent can benefit the children and can lead to a more harmonious co-parenting relationship. A parenting plan built around the children’s interests is also beneficial in this situation. Seeking personalized legal guidance is a good way to get started in this regard.

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